12 step how to live Simple and peaceful

1. Decide what is important. Take a step back and think about what’s important to you. What do you really want to be doing, who do you want to spend your time with, what do you want to accomplish with your work? Make a short list of 4-5 things for your life, 4-5 people you want to spend time with, 4-5 things you’d like to accomplish at work.
2. Examine your commitments. A big part of the problem is that our lives are way too full. We can’t possibly do everything we have committed to doing, and we certainly can’t enjoy it if we’re trying to do everything. Accept that you can’t do everything, know that you want to do what’s important to you, and try to eliminate the commitments that aren’t as important.
3. Leave space between tasks or appointments. Another mistake is trying to schedule things back-to-back. This leaves no cushion in case things take longer than we planned (which they always do), and it also gives us a feeling of being rushed and stressed throughout the day. Instead, leave a good-sized gap between your appointments or tasks, allowing you to focus more on each one, and have a transition time between them.
4. Eliminate as much as possible from your to-do list. You can’t do everything on your to-do list. Even if you could, more things will come up. As much as you can, simplify your to-do list down to the essentials. This allows you to rush less and focus more on what’s important.
5. Slow down and enjoy every task. This is the most important tip in this article. Read it twice. Whatever you’re doing, whether it’s a work task, eating, brushing your teeth, cooking dinner, driving to work: slow down. Try to enjoy whatever you’re doing. Try to pay attention, instead of thinking about other things. Be in the moment. This isn’t easy, as you will often forget. But find a way to remind yourself. Unless the task involves actual pain, there isn’t anything that can’t be enjoyable if you give it the proper attention.
   
   
   • Eat slowly. This is just a more specific application of taking things more slowly but it’s something we do every day, so it deserves special attention.
   • Drive more slowly. Another application of the same principle, driving is something we do that’s often mindless and rushed. Instead, slow down and enjoy the journey. See How to Practice Zen Driving.
6. Single-task. This is an important point. Do one thing at a time, and do it well; see How to Avoid Multi Tasking.
7. Eliminate stress. Find the stressors in your life, and find ways to eliminate them. See How to Relieve Stress.
8. Create time for solitude. In addition to slowing down and enjoying the tasks we do, and doing less of them, it’s also important to just have some time to yourself.
9. Do nothing. Sometimes, it’s good to forget about doing things, and do nothing.
10. Sprinkle simple pleasures throughout your day. Knowing what your simple pleasures are, and putting a few of them in each day, can go a long way to making life more enjoyable.
11. Practice being present. You can practice being in the moment at any time during the day. The key methods of being present include paying attention instead of daydreaming, observing what is going on around you, breathing attentively and meditating.
12. Live in the Moment. Instead of delayed gratification, try enjoying life right now.

How To Think Positive

Don't always think negative, but try to be always positive. Good things will come to you eventually. Don't always think bad thoughts, such as: I can't do this. Yet in actuality, you can. You can because you've got the power to do it Also try to avoid thoughts such as, "I don't think I will ever learn anything". If you think that, then you will not ever learn anything. Also avoids thoughts such as, "I can't solve my own problems and deal with bullying". You can if you put your mind to it. You are smart, you are powerful. You are not some kind of loser, and you can do anything if you try, by thinking positively. We can develop positive thinking through meditation. Insight meditation is a method of self-inquiry in order to acquire insgiht into karma or whatever other aspect of Buddhism we want to understand deeply. Through meditating, we begin to realize that, however long we think positively about something like karma and inquire into its nature, Sometimes we must accept that we have only a limited understanding. Eventually we reach a point where, however much positive thinking and meditation of karma we simply do not know. Not everything can be known or understood. Sometimes, as we continue meditating we begin to understand more of the insights that arise from positive thinking and inquiry. But at other times positive thinking means the courage to accept that we simply do not know everything. Meditation can lead to an intuitive experiential understanding of whatever subject on which we are meditating. This facilitates a shift in perception that allows us to see more clearly how things really are. This is no longer an intellectual process because we go beyond the intellect in meditation to access deeper levels of the mind. In this way, meditation helps the mind find the spaces between thoughts. This spaciousness of mind helps to cultivate positive thinking. Through applying positive thinking and observing our expierences moment to moment in meditation, we begin to see how suffering and dissatisfaction permeate our exisetence, and we realize that things are impermeanent. When we meditate on karma, our understanding of intentional actions and their results deepens, and an understanding of how karma operates slowly begins to arise within us. We start to know for ourselves the truth of karma. This understanding arises from our direct personal expierence, not from something we read in a book. Each time we meditate we can also use positive thinking to develop an understanding of Buddhist concepts like karma and emptiness. In Buddhism, emptiness means self and phenomena lack inherent existence, that they exist only in dependence on their consituent parts, causes, and conditions. This is a difficult concept to understand without thinking haqrd and long about it, but when we examine things closely we realize they do not exist as we usually imagine.

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1. Make a decision to do your own thinking and have control over your attitude. That means deciding to conquer the negativity that is going on around you. Think of what you can do today and how you will react that will make a difference to your life instead of allowing people and situations to dictate.
2. Associate or mix around with people who can provide something of value. Avoid those who sap your energy and motivation. If you can't avoid them, or don't want to, learn how not to let them get you down.
3. Start saying positive things especially about yourself. How you communicate to yourself affects your thinking and your emotions, as well as your self-esteem.
4. Try new things. Experiencing a wide variety of life in a positive light will do wonders. Something as simple as trying the mussels in a restaurant can lead to new tastes and different sensations
5. Read more. Read about how those people who fought fear with courage and succeeded in life. Through reading, you will gain new knowledge and understanding and it will help you clear whatever is blocking your thinking and create more ideas.
6. Set goals no matter how impossible it may seem at the moment. Keep yourself busy working on them. Once you reach one, you will get inspired. With each goals achieved no matter how small, you will gain confidence and your self-esteem will increase.
7. Change your mental pictures. What and how you see yourself and your surroundings make a difference to your thinking. You are visualizing or imagining something at every waking hour. Start to change your old internal dis-empowering pictures with images of something that you wish to experience.
8. Start questioning yourself on your behavior and attitude. Ask yourself why you are resisting or producing the habits or attitudes that you dislike. Stop each time you catch yourself in a circumstance that brings about negativity and doubts.